exspectations
Posted: Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:11 am
I found your book in the nick of time. My fiancee is a Isan girl from Roi-et province in the village of Pongthong.I have known her for one year. She speaks very little english as I speak only nitnoy Thai.I just got back from a two week visit. I learned much about her and her culure but left her with a lack of understanding which temped me to call off the whole relationship.I realize now that much of her distant attitudes she had for me in the last few days of my visit stemed from her parents and family desire(pressure) to have us wed. While I have been some what generous with support over the last year my marriage plans where for her to come to america to marry me where we could both continue to make money and plan our return to Thailand. I have filed fiance papers and am waiting for approval. She has told me that she wants to come but also that she has not told her parents of our plans. She is a respectable lady(works as a preschool teacher) is divorced with two teenage sons. Her father expects a dowery which I have no objection (since I read your book).I want to know however if the negociations are really as such. Would it be rude to bring up things as divorce, children,her age(35)etc.?My plan now is to return in three or four months have a nonbinding Thai wedding and then return with her to my home. She is so bound to her village that I doubt she will be staying here for long. I really need someone for consultation is why I have turned to this forum in the hope that someone might help me. I have many questions. Hello,is any body out there?